Your craving for intimacy is your soul's yearning for deep oneness and unity with your own heart.
Perhaps this is the most precious gift of our beloveds, that they reflect to us the glimpse of our own heavenly sweetness, and we to them.
The physical acts of intimacy through lovemaking is merely a mirror of what you hold within.
Intimacy with another will always be unfulfilling or never quite as satisfying as we dreamed, where we are not in tune and meeting with our own needs by our self.
So how does one develop their greatest intimate self love affair for all eternity?
Intimacy could be considered as having four stages; intellectual, physical, emotional and experiencing.
Do you even know what makes your brain synapses light up? Did you know that your soul is the eternal student? Connect with your curiosity and delight in learning again.
Your body is made for touch, anoint it with oils and perfumes Take your body dancing, get that deep tissue massage you deserve and even rediscover self pleasure.
Speak with love to yourself, appreciate yourself and validate yourself. Lean on friends or therapists who can hold space as you clear out any emotional debris.
Bond with the universe, delight in new experiences. Take yourself on dates, discover nature, play in the unknown, travel, make art and be silly as an eternal child.
Do you see, hidden in plain sight 𝐼𝒩𝒯𝒪 𝑀𝐸 𝐼 𝒮𝐸𝐸 teases all lovers with the delightful game of coming home to the self.
The most frequent question I get asked by men on my emails is:
How can I be good enough for a woman?
Isn't it interesting that in these times of so called advanced and spiritual communities that real good men who want to connect to a partner by making love, is not enough if it isn't labelled tantric?
What I've established in the last decade alone is that women want to be 'fucked open' to God by being ravished and profoundly penetrated by a worthy man, who has done the work on himself, transmuted his traumas, is deeply sensitive, generously giving, will listen emphatically, hold space for her AND be her pillar, her rock and support system.
What exactly is this expectation? Explored deeper the underlying theme is the same, and that is that men and women still carry false 'incomplete' templates. It's really THAT simple BUT there is also a complexity and an 'a-ha' moment to be considered.
What exactly is happening in the lovers union of a spiritual partnership?
We are undoing millennia's of oppression and trauma through our deepest lovemaking but it's not just for the feminine, it's for the masculine too. Our source unified collective unconscious KNOWS our divinity and calls it out and upon our beloved.
In fact women demand their beloveds godly greatness, as usually she can see it long before he can. Only this often means he doesn't feel good enough or worthy enough for her. A part of her feels this too.
These feelings though are not necessarily our own but are to be observed as a dance with the beloved.
What can be done to remove this shaming? What can a woman do to remove this conditioning?
1. You must be your OWN primary lover. If you believe another will complete you then you will forever be searching.
2. You must do the inner work of healing the masculine energy within you. What does 'he' feel like, look like? What does his wisdom have to say which will support you?
3. Work with you perceived needs. Allow whatever shape they form to be explored, what do they have to teach you? Are they nudging you to your wholeness?
The way of woman is calling you home sister, will you answer?