The most frequent question I get asked by men on my emails is:
How can I be good enough for a woman?
Isnt it interesting that in these times of so called advanced and spiritual communities that real good men who want to connect to a partner by making love, is not enough if it isnt labelled tantric?
What Ive established in the last decade alone is that women want to be 'fucked open' to God by being ravished and profoundly penetrated by a worthy man, who has done the work on himself, transmuted his traumas, is deeply sensitive, generously giving, will listen emphatically, hold space for her AND be her pillar, her rock and support system.
What exactly is this expectation? Explored deeper the underlying theme is the same, and that is that men and women still carry false 'incomplete' templates. It's really THAT simple BUT there is also a complexity and an 'a-ha' moment to be considered.
What exactly is happening in the lovers union of a spiritual partnership?
We are undoing millennias of oppression and trauma through our deepest lovemaking but it's not just for the feminine, it's for the masculine too. Our source unified collective unconscious KNOWS our divinity and calls it out and upon our beloved.
In fact women demand their beloveds godly greatness, as usually she can see it long before he can. Only this often means he doesnt feel good enough or worthy enough for her. A part of her feels this too.
These feelings though are not necessarily our own but are to be observed as a dance with the beloved.
What can be done to remove this shaming? What can a woman do to remove this conditioning?
1. You must be your OWN primary lover. If you believe another will complete you then you will forever be searching.
2. You must do the inner work of healing the masculine energy within you. What does 'he' feel like, look like? What does his wisdom have to say which will support you?
3. Work with you perceived needs. Allow whatever shape they form to be explored, what do they have to teach you? Are they nudging you to your wholeness?
The way of woman is calling you home sister, will you answer?